The Book of Understanding: Creating Your Own Path to Freedom

Some people said Osho is 'dangerous'. Well while reading the book The Book of Understanding: Creating Your Own Path to Freedom , I felt it too. Well, I found some of the points are quite interesting and had good laugh. Be open, think and explore. Thanks CL for the sharing.

Book cover image taken from amazon.com

Kindle or iPad or Tab or B&N Nook?

Hmm, it is 11pm and I have not go to bed. Just would like to write this before I forgot. If not this will never be written if I do not do it today. Arghh, still pending on the writings of Koh Lipe and Europe sharing.


Back to the topic. The consumer tablet market has been getting more and more competitive. I personally feel it is good, more choices. If you love to read, shall you buy an ebook reader or a table? If you google "kindle vs ipad", there are a lot of opinions on the web.


In short,
buy Kindle or B&N Nook IF:

1. you are a serious text-based book reader 
2. you are looking for device mobility where it is light and small to carry around 
3. looking for e-INK technologies device. There are claims this technology is less harmful to eye. Well, when I google about that, there are actually some opinion saying backlight and e-ink make no difference. However, I personally felt e-ink is more comfortable for longer reading period. 
4. don't mind the book is in black and white (text-based book is usually black and white anyway)

buy ipad or tab IF:

1. beside reading, you hope to do something else, e.g. movie, game and surfing.
2. beside text-based book, you hope to read magazine and newsletter with color as well.
3. don't really bother about the size and weight. Nah, you won't take the device out, you usually use it only at home.
4. you just like the user experience of the finger work when using ipad or tab. (That is the coolest thing in my younger colleagues world)
5. it's trend to use tablet, why bother the black and white reader?

I have chosen an eBook reader - Kindle Touch. 


A side story. When I travel MAS from KL to Penang, I accidentally left my Kindle in the front pocket. I am so happy that MAS worker reported it to Lost and Found department and I got back my unit after visit their office by bringing along my boarding pass and IC. Thumb up to MAS! Just wonder if it was Air Asia, will it be the same? 
Lesson learnt. Always check the front pocket before leave the seat.千金难买一回头

The User's Manual For Human Body - Disclaimer

SN shared this book with me written in Chinese 人体使用手册 The User's Manual For Human Body. I found it interesting and would like to share here. I will be translating the book based on a soft copy version I get on the web which the book hasn't published in hard copy.

The terms I used in my sharing post will be based on my best and my understanding. It might not be accurate.

I am not sure if the copyright of my translated text belong to Alex Wu or me, but anyway, the content copyright shall belong to Alex Wu as it is his book :) For sure the Chinese text copyright belongs to Alex Wu. My opinion will be mark in syntax [MK: opinion] which is solely my opinion. By the way, I'd try google to look for Alex or the publisher email to request for their permission of this sharing, unfortunately I can't find any, and thus this disclaimer :)

Some of Alex Wu blog on this book http://alexwu2300.blogspot.com/

For sure, if you can read Chinese, it is good if you can buy his book from bookstore :)

This blog post will be tag as books, health and user's manual for human body. Subsequent translated text blog post will be tag as user's manual for human body only :) Subsequent related blog post title will start with "UMHB" which is abbr. of user's manual for human body. Please click on label user's manual for human body to read all related post about this book.

Carnegie's Advices of Happiness For Ladies 卡内基 写给女人一生幸福的忠告

I remembered I read somewhere, there is still no suitable English word for 幸福 (Mandarin pronounced as Xing4 Fu2), the word Happiness is the closest. Anyway, this book ( available in mandarin version only, guess probably is extracted from few Carnegie's book and translated.) uses story written by Carnegie to describe the concepts. Not all advice applicable to all ladies, as some maybe more related to US culture, business man family and etc, but most are interesting to think about.



The book content, if you understand mandarin.

第一章　女人处世的十二大基本技巧
　1.戒除批评、责怪和抱怨
　2.真诚地赞赏、喜欢他人
　3.不要争论不休
　4.发自真心地请别人帮忙
　5.建议永远比命令更有“威力”
　6.别忘了，保全别人的面子很重要
　7.承认错误一点都不丢人
　8.宽容别人是对自己的解救
　9.不强加于人
　10.千万不能心存报复
　11.守住隐私好为人
　12.闲来切忌无事生非
第二章　平安快乐的要诀
　13.选好自己的伴侣
　14.健康女人，平安快乐
　15.让真爱与你同行
　16.保持自我
　17.与人为善会使自己快乐
　18.做自己喜欢的事
　19.拥有点闲暇时间
　20.让最得意的事常在脑海中萦绕
　21.说出你的心事
　22.不要苛求别人的感恩
　23.生活不能太单调
　24.不要把别人的批评太放在心上
　25.学会放松，解除疲劳
　26.认识忧虑，抗拒忧虑
　27.战胜孤独
　28.追求完美的女人不幸福
　29.贪婪蛀蚀快乐
　30.自尊自爱
第三章　做最有魅力的女人
　31.举手投足尽显风雅
　32.做一个有格调的女人
　33.好性格使你幸运
　34.做自己情绪的主人
　35.保持快乐与活力
　36.恰当的衣着和化妆
　37.会说话，会办事
　38.“糊涂”女人最可爱
　39.给别人说自己得意事情的机主
　40.微笑是给人良好印象的最好岁
　41.善解人意，体贴他人
　42.做一个“柔道”高手
第四章　让中意的男人喜欢你（婚前）
　43.做有情调的女人
　44.为悦己者容
　45.羞涩的诱惑力
　46.眼神效应
　47.用柔情结网
　48.保持独特魅力，让男人着迷
　49.挑战成功男人的爱情
　50.多谈论他感兴趣的话题
　51.认可他，崇拜他
　52.让他获得从未有过的关爱
　53.女人，慢解你的罗裙
　54.机敏地抓住幸福
第五章　不伤感情地改变他（婚后）
　55.最笨的女人才强迫对方
　56.先赞扬，再批评，但赞扬要不留痕迹
　57.切忌直截了当地指出他的错误
　58.鼓励更容易使人改正错误
　59.以提问的方式来代替命令
　60.戏剧性地表达自己的意图
　61.给他一顶高帽子，并让他努力达标
　62.激发他的高尚动机
第六章　做他事业上的好帮手
　63.授权给他，使他乐于做你所建议的事
　64.鼓励他从事合适的职业
　65.帮丈夫确定目标
　66.称赞他的进步，激励他获得成功
　67.做他的忠诚信徒
　68.让丈夫静心工作
　69.帮助他受到欢迎
　70.熟悉他的工作，并适时帮助他
　71.他要是调职，就和他一起去
　72.鼓励他不断学习
　73.他要经常加班加点
　74.嫁了个在家工作的人
　75.丈夫的工作出现了突然变化
　76.与他的女秘书快乐相处
　77.善于倾听很重要
　78.让他感到自己很重要
　79.你的野心会害了他
　80.放弃控制他的想法
　81.给予他同情与谅解
第七章　让你的家庭生活幸福快乐
　82.当你们的职业发生冲突时
　83.珍惜丈夫的身体
　84.让他有自己的爱好
　85.女人的爱好，男人的“运气”
　86.高效率处理好家务
　87.喋喋不休是幸福婚姻的禁忌
　88.别做婚姻的文盲
　89.在生活的小细节中体贴他
　90.做一个招人喜爱的女主人
　91.创造浪漫温馨的家庭氛围
　92.学会家庭理财这一课
　93.注重生活中的小事
　94.教育子女责无旁贷
　95.多了解性，别让自己冷下去
　96.向他表达你的爱和幸福感
　97.魅力妻子的十堂必修课
　98.做应对情感风波的高手
　99.简单处理婚姻中的复杂难题
　100.拥有自信，消除恐惧
　101.能听意见，也有主见
　102.学会喜欢自己
　103.活在今天
　104.适应不可避免的事实
　105.不为打翻的牛奶哭泣
　106.该放手时就放手
　107.平静、理智、克制
　108.练就坚韧的意志品质
　109.学会与婚姻外的男性相处
　110.不再为失眠忧虑
第九章　做可人的职业场女人
　111.工作着的女人有魅力
　112.心中要有目标
　113.高情商女人容易赢得成功
　114.女人的职场第一原理
　115.认真做好每一件事
　116.养成好的工作习惯
　117.让你的上司赏识你
　118.自如应付同性的嫉妒
　119.说话做事要有度
　120.做一个沟通高手
　121.打造成功的人际关系网

Happiness at this moment 幸福在当下

During my last Beijing trip, I bought quite a few Chinese book, the book price is really attractive, at least half of that in Malaysia, and more importantly is might not available in Malaysia bookstore. I like to buy online from dang dang 当当网 or amazon joyo卓越.

About a month ago, I finished read 幸福在当下 Happiness at this moment. Similar to other motivation book, the author uses a lot of story and experience to convey the idea. Until today, a story still in my mind. In short, the author has a very good academic achievement few years ago and she always get a lot of compliments of that. One day her uncle asked her, what is your achievement for this year? The author was shocked and then realized that, those compliments belong to the past, more importantly is Now, This Moment. At this moment, how do you feel, what do you achieve, are you happy, can you sleep, can you eat and etc.

Another idea is, if you live in a country with no war, you can go to school, you can get food easily, then you are very lucky than at least 2/3 of the population in the world (if I remembered the figure correctly), thus, you should feel happy of being lucky :D

A quick glance of the book:

Intro Now This Moment is the most important moment 自序 当下最重要

1st chapter: Let go of the past 第一章 放下过去
1. It is you Now, whose build from the past没有曾经，就没有你的现在
If there is no past 假如没有过去
Hurt by a relationship 受过爱情的伤
Results revealed only the past, not current 成绩只能说明过去
2. Remembered the past, but don't live there记得过去，可别活在那里
Don't pay yesterday bill 不为昨天买单
Release yourself Now 现在就放了自己
Life, begin anywhere anytime 人生可以随时开始
3. Be able to take it up, but also be able to let go拿得起，更要放得下
Clear your burden 清理人生背包
New will come after the old 旧的不去，新的不来
Optimistic is the keypoint 乐观是转机
4. Thanks to all the challenges in the past感谢一路的风风雨雨
Sadness is the salt of life 苦是生命的盐
You may turn but not U-turn 可以转身，但不回头
Forgive others, release yourself 宽怒别人，宽容自己

2nd chapter: Face challenge positively 第二章 正视逆镜
1. Challenge, is a gift from the God磨难，是上天赐予的财富
The positive meaning of Lost “输”的积极意义
Pile up challenges as your wealth 将磨难积累成财富
Be the supporter of yourself 做自己的靠山
2.Treat challenge as a trip 把挫折当作一次旅程
Your altitude decide your life 心态决定人生
Challenge enriched your life 曲折，让生命更精彩
Hope, is the lighthouse of life “希望”是生命的灯
3.Find your road to successful in downturn 逆境中开始成功之路
You will lost if you have no direction in life 没有方向，就会迷失
The beauty of elasticity of life 生命的柔韧美
Dream biggest worry is Wait 梦想害怕等待
4.Let's have bigger challenges 让暴风雨来得更猛烈些吧
Challenge the old you 战胜以往的自己
It is not end of the world 人生没有绝境
Rainbow will come after the rain 彩虹闪耀在风雨之后

3rd chapter: Appreciate this moment 第三章 珍惜现在
1. Something called Appreciate 有一种态度叫珍惜
Happiness is not tomorrow, neither yesterday 幸福不在明天，也不在昨天
Every moment is unique 每一个刹那都是唯一
Seize this moment is better than hoping for tomorrow 把握现在胜过等待未来
2. A good medicine called Forget 有一种良药叫忘记
Give yourself a new start 给自己一个新的开始
Don't put the sadness at your back 不要背负婚姻失败的伤
The philosophy of Forgetting “健忘”的哲学
3. A fortune called Challenge 有一种财富叫磨难
Fell down is just a starting point 跌倒只是开始
Obstacle make us stronger 障碍使我们变得伟大
Leave the failure behind 把失败写在背面
4. There is something good called Hope 有一种美景叫希望
How a caterpillar become a butterfly 化蛹为蝶的蜕变
The details define success/failure 细节决定成败
Everyday is an important day 把握生命中的每一天

4th chapter Enjoy the sunshine 第四章 享受阳光
1. Let's enjoy now 为什么不能享受现在
This moment is the most precious 此刻的时光最珍贵
Is next moment will be better? 下一刻更美好？
Do not withdraw Tomorrow's harass 不要预支明天的烦恼
2. Live normally 以平常心去对待生活
Stop comparing 别再去比较了
Shut the worry outside the door 把烦恼关在门外
What are you waiting for? 你还在等什么？
3. Always appreciate 用感恩的眼睛看世界
Appreciate your belonging now 感激现在的拥有
Your current relationship is precious 无价是眼前的爱人
Let sun shine in your heart 让心中装满阳光
4. Still living, is the best thing in life 活着就是最美的事情
Don't trade money with your health 不用健康换金钱
Life and death 生有时，死有时
Still living, is the best thing in life 活着，就是最美的幸福

5th chapter Search for peacefulness 第五章 寻找安宁
1. A simple life 有一种生活叫简约
What are you rushing for? 你在追赶什么
Use 'subtraction' to live 用减法过生活
A happy marriage is not like roller-coaster 幸福的婚姻是平淡
2. Be satisfied 有一种快乐叫知足
Don't stretch too far 适可而止最高明
The philosophy of 80% 人生的八分哲学
Don't stretch yourself 不要太苛求自己
3. A 'normal' heart thinking 有一种心境叫平常
Nothing we can bring when it is end of the life 我们什么也带不走
Perfectionism, the source of struggle 越完美，越痛苦
Reduce worry 减少烦恼，保持平常心
4. Stay calm 有一种幸福叫安宁
Everyday is a good day 日日是好日
Sleep well with calm mind 枕着心安入眠
Back to simple life 回归简单的生命本质

6th chapter Stay away from desire 第六章 远离欲望
1. How big is your desire? 有多少欲望才能满足
Life cannot be 100% full 生活不能装得太满
Extramarital affairs is high risk gambling 婚外情是危险的赌博
Be satisfied 满足永远在未来
2. Learn to hold 人要学会忍耐
Do not let wealth control you 不要让财富成为负担
Learn to let go 学会放弃，回到当下
It is still a long way to go 有些路还需慢慢走
3. Bring your heart with you 把心放在身边
Sit here 坐在这里，想那里
Appreciate the relationship around you 珍惜身边的爱
Most important thing in life 生命中最重要的事
4. Learn to let go 学会放弃是一种智慧
Let it go when it is time to 该舍弃时就舍弃
Step back, is moving forward 退步原来是向前
Do what is important to 做最重要的事

7th chapter Go for simplicity 第七章 追求简约
1. Be slower, relax 放慢脚步，轻松生活
Enjoy the process 何不享受过程
Find your own pace 找到适合自己的节奏
Yoga exercise for your soul 给心灵做个瑜珈
2. Put down the burden 卸下身上沉重的包袱
Stress is a spice of life 压力是一种调味品
Forget the pain of unsuccessful relationship 放下失恋的痛苦
Enjoy everyday 享受生活的每一天
3. Simple but not dull 简约，但不简单
Live your life 对生活投入“全心全意”
Learn to be less smart 学学.“傻根”许三多
Face gain/lost 安然看待得失
4. You decide your happiness 追寻快乐，全在自己
To be happy, first open your heart 要快乐，先“开”心
Continue journey of life with smile 带着笑容上路
It is happy to share 分享才快乐

8th chapter Plan your tomorrow 第八章 给明天一个规划
1. Your today decide your tomorrow 明天怎样，在于你对今天的把握
Time is not a toy 时间不是奢侈品
Treat every time the first time 把每一次都当作第一次
Set a goal 每天给自己一个目标
2. Live this moment, doesn't meant do not plan for tomorrow 活在当下，不是不计划
Today is the foundation of tomorrow 今天是明天的基石
Everyday a little, it will be a mickle 做小事也可以成就伟大
Goal is 50% of successful 成功的一半是方向
3. Face your life 正视自己的人生
Plan your life 为生命做一个规划
Desire is a double side blade 野心是把双刃剑
Set your soul free 解除心灵的枷锁
4. Future is in your hand 未来在我手中
The size of the world is the size of your heart 心有多大，世界才有多大
I'm possible 每个人都有无限可能
Write your own interesting story of life 精彩生命，自己书写

Ending Life exists at this moment 尾声 生活只存在于现在

I hope the content overview can give you some idea the importance of This Moment. My friend, live today :) not yesterday nor tomorrow. Sun shine on everybody fairly, if you ever go under the sunshine.

2009-05-31 My favorites

Today is Sunday and yet a working day. This is because Thu was Dumpling festival and the company I worked for declared holiday from Thu - Sat, thus have to change Friday working day to Sunday.

Due to some reason, after dinner, we went to Wang Fu Jing for dinner. I won't missed this opportunity to visit WangFuJing bookstore. I'd been to this bookstore during my last trip and I like it. It can be reach by public transport easily, huge and with lots of books. I can spend my day here :D

For the 40 min I have, I manage to locate few of the books that I am looking for, and bought 3 books below:



The books are in Oxford dictionary size and the thickness. 3 of them weight 3.8kg in total :) (I really need to plan well so my luggage will not be overweight :) ) and RMB 132.60 in total.

Here are the collections of the book:
The Bronte Sisters
- Jane Eyre
- Wuthering Heights
- Agnes Grey

Charles Dickens
- Oliver Twist
- Hard Times
- A Tale of Two Cities
- Great Expectations

Jane Austen:
- Pride and Prejudice
- Sense and sensibility
- Emma
- Mansfield Park
- Northanger Abbey
- Persuasion

Before I forgot, here is the dinner at Yu Xiang 渝香

From top right, counter clockwise:
1) Stir fried long bean - As that in Malaysia.
2) Steam pork with pumpkin - Similar to 扣肉 style.
3) Tofu in salted egg sauce
4) Pumpkin dessert

快乐的人生

有没有想过可以影响你的某些人，某些事情，某些书本，还是某些话语？

最近，我发觉自己的人生态度/观念又再转变了。变得比较不计较，比较随和。现在回想起来，以前的我应该是比较外冷内热的吧，而且也比较严肃。哈哈。

撇开健康书籍不谈。今年年初，看了2本我觉得影响我人生的书：快乐的人生，美好的人生。渐渐的，觉得自己有改变，处事待人比较随和，开开心心的，没有什么事情是不能商量解决的，尤其是这两个月更加明显，连自己都感觉到自己的改变。天时，地利，人和真的是一个非常贴切的名言。如果我早在10年前阅读这2本书，我想效果应该没有今天这么强。同一件事情，在每个年龄阶段的体会都不一样，随着年龄增长，真的越来越同意这句话了。

当然，也祝愿你有一个快快乐乐的人生 :)

写给你的

昨天刚刚开始阅读《写给你的》，作者是陶乐丝·卡耐基。在第一篇，看到了目标及热诚（enthusiasm）的重要性。如果没有enthusiasm，则人生多数都是浑浑噩噩，没有方向，也极难成功。那，你找到了你的目标了吗？你有热诚吗？

只要感恩，礼让，微笑，一切都可以令你快意很多

摘自<李居明改运真言>

撞车容易修车难

摘自<李居明改运真言>

而最近我自己本身得领悟是

生病容易痊愈难 :p

敲不响的钟不是钟，不愿意奉献的爱不是爱

摘自<李居明改运真言>

If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible

Excerpt from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker:

"Imagine a tree. Let's suppose this tree represents the tree of life. On this tree there are fruits. In life, our fruits are called our results. So we look at the fruits (our results) and we don't like them; they aren't enough of them, they're too small, or they don't taste good.

So what do we tend to do? Most of us put even more attention and focus on the fruits, our results. But what is it that actually creates those particular fruits>? It's the seeds and the roots that create those fruits.

It's what under the ground that creates what's above the ground. It's what's invisible that creates what's visible. So what does that mean? It means that if you want to change the fruits, you will first have to changed the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible."

Although I have not been thinking of becoming a millionaire, I am just looking for comfortable simple life (I do not know if it requires million of dollar :p ) . But I think, words above applied to all human beings in all situation, no only in terms of money, but also personality and attitude.

自己好，让别人也好；让别人好，自己才好

摘自<李居明改运真言>

tuesdays with Morrie

Some excerpt from the book tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

The first tuesday : “Love is the only rational act.”

The second tuesday: “I don’t allow myself any more self-pity than that A little each morning, a few tears, and that’s all.”

The third tuesday: “What if today were my last day on earth.”

The forth tuesday: “Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”

The fifth tuesday: “If you don’t have the support and love and caring and concern that you get from a family, you don’t have much at all. Love is so supremely important.”

The sixth tuesday: “But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.”

The seventh tuesday: “You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And, age is not a competitive issue.”

The eighth tuesday: “If you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”

The ninth tuesday: “There are few rules about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And the biggest one: Your belief in the importance of your marriage.”

The tenth tuesday: “The problem is that we don’t believe we are as much alike as we are. Whites and blacks, Catholics and Protestants, men and women. If we saw each other as more alike, we might be very eager to join in one big human family in this world, and to care about that family the way we care about our own.”

The eleventh tuesday: “Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Don’t wait..”

What is life?

I am currently reading Tuesdays with Morrie.

I find that a good book to read on, if you are lost in your life, if you are curious on what is life. Life is Love.