On Oct 8, there is an asteroid explosion over Indonesia, raises fears about Earth's defenses.
Looking at the youtube video above, if this happened during ancient time, could the large dust cloud with daylight fireball be the white Dragon in Chinese ancient story beliefs? Especially the fireball reminded me of some dragon drawing which the dragon is able to 'spit' fire. Furthermore, if this happened at beach, could that be the origin of Neptune of ancient Chinese story? Interesting eh ;) Luckily the earth is save from this incident, or else Armageddon will become true :)
小行星在印尼上空爆炸‧烟尘如巨龙空中盘旋。看到youtube的报导，想到如果这个情景发生在古时候，那弯曲白烟会不会就是传说中的白龙呢？龙的传说是否就此来的呢? 那火球是否就像传说中在喷火的巨龙呢？而如果发生在海边的话，是否就变成了海龙王的故事呢？有趣吧 ：） 不过幸亏这次我们逃过这个大难，否则大家此刻可能已经烟飞灰灭了。感恩。
SN, 谢谢分享 ：）
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Friday, October 30, 2009
Local singer Meeia 本地姜符琼音
Just got to know this Malaysia singerMeeia 符琼音 who won prices in a Taiwan singing contest. I listen to some of her song, which I think is quite good :D It reminded me of a person's quote: "Malaysia is full of talent too, just there is no chance for them to showcase. So they have to go oversea."
Some of her song in youtube:
A Mandarin song 夢醒時分 （原唱陈淑桦）:
An English song, Listen of Beyonce:
Some of her song in youtube:
A Mandarin song 夢醒時分 （原唱陈淑桦）:
An English song, Listen of Beyonce:
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Jem - It's Amazing
Have some task pending for long? Come on, listen to this song, and start your action plan. We never know when is the last day :)
The official video is here.
The lyrics:
Do it now
You know who you are
You feel it in your heart
And you're burning and wishing
At first, wait, won't get it on a plate
You're gonna work for it harder and harder
And I know 'cause I've been there before
Knocking on the doors with rejection (rejection)
And you'll see 'cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
[Chorus:]
It's amazing, it's amazing all that you can do
It's amazing, it makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Patience, now, frustration's in the air
And people you don't care
Well it's gonna get you down
And you'll fall (fall)
Yes you will hit a wall
But get back on your feet
And you'll be stronger and smarter
And I know 'cause I've been there before
Knockin' down the doors, won't take "No" for an answer
And you'll see 'cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
[Chorus]
Ooo-ooo-ooo
[Chorus x2]
Ahh-ahh-ahh
The official video is here.
The lyrics:
Do it now
You know who you are
You feel it in your heart
And you're burning and wishing
At first, wait, won't get it on a plate
You're gonna work for it harder and harder
And I know 'cause I've been there before
Knocking on the doors with rejection (rejection)
And you'll see 'cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
[Chorus:]
It's amazing, it's amazing all that you can do
It's amazing, it makes my heart sing
Now it's up to you
Patience, now, frustration's in the air
And people you don't care
Well it's gonna get you down
And you'll fall (fall)
Yes you will hit a wall
But get back on your feet
And you'll be stronger and smarter
And I know 'cause I've been there before
Knockin' down the doors, won't take "No" for an answer
And you'll see 'cause if it's meant to be
Nothing can compare to deserving your dream
[Chorus]
Ooo-ooo-ooo
[Chorus x2]
Ahh-ahh-ahh
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Detox - First day
Due to unhealthy diet during Beijing trip, I would like to try plant-food-only detox again. If possible, it should be carried out for two weeks. It is not easy to find 2 weeks for that, where there need to be no long meeting and no gathering/farewell meal.
On Oct 24, I'd decided to start the body cleansing, although there are still few up coming activities but very less.
The meal menu:
I cooked a big bowl of vegetable soup with olive oil [Choy sum, leafy lettuce (油麦菜 Mak Choy), fish meat, wolf berry].
Breakfast: Vegetable soup.
Lunch: Vegetable soup and 2 cups fruit/vegetable juice (whenever I mentioned fruit/vegetable juice, it is from Tom Wu's recipe)
Dinner: Vegetable soup, added more vegetable and asparagus.
Result:
Nothing much special. Two toilet output which I sometimes also can achieve by eating more fiber product e.g. psyllium husk.
On Oct 24, I'd decided to start the body cleansing, although there are still few up coming activities but very less.
The meal menu:
I cooked a big bowl of vegetable soup with olive oil [Choy sum, leafy lettuce (油麦菜 Mak Choy), fish meat, wolf berry].
Breakfast: Vegetable soup.
Lunch: Vegetable soup and 2 cups fruit/vegetable juice (whenever I mentioned fruit/vegetable juice, it is from Tom Wu's recipe)
Dinner: Vegetable soup, added more vegetable and asparagus.
Result:
Nothing much special. Two toilet output which I sometimes also can achieve by eating more fiber product e.g. psyllium husk.
Monday, October 26, 2009
About detox
Some said, beside internet and communication business, next cycle of business opportunity will be health related product. Well, it is undeniable that health awareness is increasing in terms of physical exercise or food. Yoga/pilates, ionizer, water filter system, health care product, gym and lots more. (Can tell by the high jump price in face mask because of the H1N1).
One of the popular practice is Detox. That day a friend asked about the detox diet I'd took, and I would like to share my experience and comment today :)
1. Carrot/Orange juice
Before I started my detox, there was a colleague who tried carrot/orange juice detox formula.
How to do
Her formula is just drink carrot/orange juice (the fruit fiber was separated and not consume) for 1 week. 2-3 days before start, slowly reduce your diet using light diet e.g. porridge and juice. After finish, slowly increase diet by taking light diet again. This is to let the stomach to slowly adapt to the fluid diet changes. According to her, first two days of the diet will be the hardest, but after that you will get used to just drinking juice.
My opinion
I do not dare to try this one at all. I am not confident to live for 7 days with juice with no fiber. Her main purpose is to reduce weight and clean the colon. On the contrary, I want to gain weight. Her opinion is it works well on her body.
2. Plant food only
How to do
Got to know this link from a friend. From the link page 3, it is "A less extreme cleanse involves removing hard-to-digest, unhealthy and/or heavily refined foods from your diet. Avoid caffeine, sugar, fried foods, junk foods, dairy products, meants, starchy foods and processed foods. Focus on eating at least five servings of fruits and vegetables - raw is best - 30 grams of fiber, 24 grams of soy protein and no less than 64 ounces of water every day for a minimum of two weeks." Read some of my previous Chinese blog post on this 排毒的第一天 and subsequent day. I didn't follow the recommended product in page 4 of this link, not enough budget :p So I consume only fruits and vegetables for two weeks , either raw or quickly cooked in soup, plus the NutriFresh.
My opinion
I am more comfortable with this less extreme approach. I still remember during the last two days of the detox, my face skin was really soft, less oily although work in air conditioned office all day long, just rinse with water after work and it was clean, no facial product is needed. Unfortunately, I experienced few days diarrhea after that, which could maybe because I seldom take 'hot-nature' vegetable during that period e.g. ginger, pepper, herb/spice. My body is too 'cold' 寒. After knowing this, when I first know Tom Wu fruit/vegetable juice recipe with 'hot-nature' plant e.g. ginger, I have confidence on his recipe in his book 吴永志－不一样的自然养生法. You may also go to youtube and search for some TV video on Tom Wu by key in his name 吴永志 in the search option.
While taking this detox diet, I consumed no rice nor vermicelli (no starchy food), I feel hungry very frequently, almost every two hours, especially I have not known Tom Wu's recipe yet. The lucky thing is I do not have much long meeting during that period, so can eat at my cubicle whenever I felt hungry. I just started this detox again on Oct 24 with some new implementation. I will share this detox experience soon :)
3. Banana Soy Juice
This was popular in Japan some time ago, where there was very high demand on banana at that time :)
How to do
Referring to my blog post
自制豆水, there is a quick summary on this detox method. The summary is translated here:
Day 1 - 2: Consume soy bean juice + banana blend only. 200ml for each meal. Use fresh soy milk and fresh banana. (After discussion with SN, we think it should be okay to take Tom Wu's recipe also, as long as no solid food in these two days.) Recommended to start this during the weekend, as it will be more difficult to do this during working day.
Day 3 - 6: Soy + banana blend for breakfast. For lunch and dinner, you may take normal meal, highly recommended high fiber and more plant food.
Day 7: Soy + banana blend and normal breakfast meal. For lunch and dinner, same as Day 3-6, you may take normal meal, highly recommended high fiber and more plant food.
My opinion
This has some effect on me although it is not as great as Excel-way detox. Especially after every soy + banana blend, there will be healthy nature call. Some of SN's detox experience using this and Tom Wu's recipe. This could be a good option to start with.
4. Master Cleanse
You may wikipedia for more information also.
How to do
Refer to this website for details.
My opinion
I bought the cayenne powder but do not dare to try this yet, same reason with the carrot/orange juice detox method. A colleague tried this and he felt this is really effective in loosing weight. If not mistaken, he did it for the minimum period recommended only.
Hope this is helpful, start to consider detox diet? ;)
One of the popular practice is Detox. That day a friend asked about the detox diet I'd took, and I would like to share my experience and comment today :)
1. Carrot/Orange juice
Before I started my detox, there was a colleague who tried carrot/orange juice detox formula.
How to do
Her formula is just drink carrot/orange juice (the fruit fiber was separated and not consume) for 1 week. 2-3 days before start, slowly reduce your diet using light diet e.g. porridge and juice. After finish, slowly increase diet by taking light diet again. This is to let the stomach to slowly adapt to the fluid diet changes. According to her, first two days of the diet will be the hardest, but after that you will get used to just drinking juice.
My opinion
I do not dare to try this one at all. I am not confident to live for 7 days with juice with no fiber. Her main purpose is to reduce weight and clean the colon. On the contrary, I want to gain weight. Her opinion is it works well on her body.
2. Plant food only
How to do
Got to know this link from a friend. From the link page 3, it is "A less extreme cleanse involves removing hard-to-digest, unhealthy and/or heavily refined foods from your diet. Avoid caffeine, sugar, fried foods, junk foods, dairy products, meants, starchy foods and processed foods. Focus on eating at least five servings of fruits and vegetables - raw is best - 30 grams of fiber, 24 grams of soy protein and no less than 64 ounces of water every day for a minimum of two weeks." Read some of my previous Chinese blog post on this 排毒的第一天 and subsequent day. I didn't follow the recommended product in page 4 of this link, not enough budget :p So I consume only fruits and vegetables for two weeks , either raw or quickly cooked in soup, plus the NutriFresh.
My opinion
I am more comfortable with this less extreme approach. I still remember during the last two days of the detox, my face skin was really soft, less oily although work in air conditioned office all day long, just rinse with water after work and it was clean, no facial product is needed. Unfortunately, I experienced few days diarrhea after that, which could maybe because I seldom take 'hot-nature' vegetable during that period e.g. ginger, pepper, herb/spice. My body is too 'cold' 寒. After knowing this, when I first know Tom Wu fruit/vegetable juice recipe with 'hot-nature' plant e.g. ginger, I have confidence on his recipe in his book 吴永志－不一样的自然养生法. You may also go to youtube and search for some TV video on Tom Wu by key in his name 吴永志 in the search option.
While taking this detox diet, I consumed no rice nor vermicelli (no starchy food), I feel hungry very frequently, almost every two hours, especially I have not known Tom Wu's recipe yet. The lucky thing is I do not have much long meeting during that period, so can eat at my cubicle whenever I felt hungry. I just started this detox again on Oct 24 with some new implementation. I will share this detox experience soon :)
3. Banana Soy Juice
This was popular in Japan some time ago, where there was very high demand on banana at that time :)
How to do
Referring to my blog post
自制豆水, there is a quick summary on this detox method. The summary is translated here:
Day 1 - 2: Consume soy bean juice + banana blend only. 200ml for each meal. Use fresh soy milk and fresh banana. (After discussion with SN, we think it should be okay to take Tom Wu's recipe also, as long as no solid food in these two days.) Recommended to start this during the weekend, as it will be more difficult to do this during working day.
Day 3 - 6: Soy + banana blend for breakfast. For lunch and dinner, you may take normal meal, highly recommended high fiber and more plant food.
Day 7: Soy + banana blend and normal breakfast meal. For lunch and dinner, same as Day 3-6, you may take normal meal, highly recommended high fiber and more plant food.
My opinion
This has some effect on me although it is not as great as Excel-way detox. Especially after every soy + banana blend, there will be healthy nature call. Some of SN's detox experience using this and Tom Wu's recipe. This could be a good option to start with.
4. Master Cleanse
You may wikipedia for more information also.
How to do
Refer to this website for details.
My opinion
I bought the cayenne powder but do not dare to try this yet, same reason with the carrot/orange juice detox method. A colleague tried this and he felt this is really effective in loosing weight. If not mistaken, he did it for the minimum period recommended only.
Hope this is helpful, start to consider detox diet? ;)
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Serenity 用宁静心拥抱世界
Extracted from a forwarded email, content by Sheng Yan Fa Shi, illustrated by Miss Zhao Ting Ru.
Hug the world, with serenity.
Our mind mastering us, it is powerful. We should be aware of our thoughts from time to time.
We deal with a lot of people everyday. Argument and conflict is unavoidable. There are other external factors affect our mind, which interrupted our heart's serenity.
It requires a lot of wisdom to keep one's serenity, which is not easy to be achieved.
When we stand on top of the hill or at the beach, the open ended view open up our mind and heart, keep us stayed away from hectic of a living.
So there is a saying, The world is the size of your heart/mind.
Our heart and mind, can be as huge as the field, ocean or sky, to accommodate more things, and unlimited freedom.
"If one's heart/mind is closed, the bitter his/her will be. A open and happy mind will turn bitter into sweetness in life"
In Zen, 平常心 (direct translation will be Common Heart, it means Act Normal) means we are very clear of our environment. Its good and bad. Its beauty and ugly. Its true and false. But we are not affected by all those. Our mind will not influenced by the situation.
When one's mind is cannot be influenced easily, his/her mind will be peaceful, and understand himself/herself very well. He/She is very clear on what can be done, what cannot be done, what should be done, what should not be done. This is what we call Wisdom.
To keep a serene mind, do not let the environment influence your mind.
The easiest way to do so is to pay attention to our breathing, the nose condition when we inhale/exhale. Pay attention to our feeling. As long as we focus on our body feeling, the heart will be calmed down.
Worry is not bad thing to do, in fact, it cultivates a calmed mind.
If we have wisdom to handle our life, our mind will be always calmed. No matter where we are, what we are doing, we can be self-controlled, calmed and relax.
Close your eyes and think, can things be better if you were calm? Were you easily affected by people surrounded? Were you get angry/annoyed by trivial issue?.
"If we can't accommodate other, we have not enough love.
If we can't accommodate ourselves, we have not enough wisdom."
Chinese text by Sheng Yan Fa Shi, illustrated by Miss Zhao Ting Ru.
Hug the world, with serenity.
Our mind mastering us, it is powerful. We should be aware of our thoughts from time to time.
We deal with a lot of people everyday. Argument and conflict is unavoidable. There are other external factors affect our mind, which interrupted our heart's serenity.
It requires a lot of wisdom to keep one's serenity, which is not easy to be achieved.
When we stand on top of the hill or at the beach, the open ended view open up our mind and heart, keep us stayed away from hectic of a living.
So there is a saying, The world is the size of your heart/mind.
Our heart and mind, can be as huge as the field, ocean or sky, to accommodate more things, and unlimited freedom.
"If one's heart/mind is closed, the bitter his/her will be. A open and happy mind will turn bitter into sweetness in life"
In Zen, 平常心 (direct translation will be Common Heart, it means Act Normal) means we are very clear of our environment. Its good and bad. Its beauty and ugly. Its true and false. But we are not affected by all those. Our mind will not influenced by the situation.
When one's mind is cannot be influenced easily, his/her mind will be peaceful, and understand himself/herself very well. He/She is very clear on what can be done, what cannot be done, what should be done, what should not be done. This is what we call Wisdom.
To keep a serene mind, do not let the environment influence your mind.
The easiest way to do so is to pay attention to our breathing, the nose condition when we inhale/exhale. Pay attention to our feeling. As long as we focus on our body feeling, the heart will be calmed down.
Worry is not bad thing to do, in fact, it cultivates a calmed mind.
If we have wisdom to handle our life, our mind will be always calmed. No matter where we are, what we are doing, we can be self-controlled, calmed and relax.
Close your eyes and think, can things be better if you were calm? Were you easily affected by people surrounded? Were you get angry/annoyed by trivial issue?.
"If we can't accommodate other, we have not enough love.
If we can't accommodate ourselves, we have not enough wisdom."
Chinese text by Sheng Yan Fa Shi, illustrated by Miss Zhao Ting Ru.
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Smile 2 :)
Read this from a forwarded email, it cheer up my days, hope so do yours :D
Tips to Stay Young n Happy Always
1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.
Let the doctors worry about them.. That is why you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.
'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!
6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourself.
LIVE while you are alive.
7 Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
Tips to Stay Young n Happy Always
1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.
Let the doctors worry about them.. That is why you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.
'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!
6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourself.
LIVE while you are alive.
7 Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
Friday, October 23, 2009
Ristorante Bravo Italiana, Penang
I like food, Japanese food, Hong Kong food, western food, Italian food, Malay food, Indian food, almost all kind of food :) In Penang, I enjoy the hawker food the most but also visit some restaurant from time to time.
A best friend and I visit Bravo Italiana near I-avenue, Bukit Jambul, Penang. We reached there around 12.30pm. Surprisingly there were only two guest, whose are my friend and I *chuckle*. Well, some restaurant in Bayan Lepas area is packed only during weekday, when the factory is operating.
[Click on picture for a clearer one]
A quick glance of the restaurant.
We ordered set lunch, at RM 16.90 or RM 24. The food, in clockwise direction from top left:
1. Garlic bread + soup. The soup is quite nice, with quite a number of mushroom and olive inside. The bread is crunchy and smell nice too. Dipping the bread into the soup is what I usually do :D
2. Fish and chip.
3. Mint ice cream and coffee. As usual :)
4. Spaghetti in olive oil and herbs. I think this is good, if the chef can give few more brocolli will be even better :D The portion is quite huge, just suit people who would like to gain weight like me :D
The menu is typical Italian food menu we can found in Penang I feel. If there is raviolli, risotto, or tivolli will be even better :D
As what I would normall do when dine in Italian restaurant, a tiramisu before or after the meal :D
I personally feel this is quite good. I am not sure what is actual Kahlua taste, the waiter said they are using Kahlua. I feel there is hardly alcohol taste, although there is some bitter taste. I will try this again if I revisit this restaurant :D
Set lunch at RM 16.90/24, tiramisu RM 12.80.
Ristorante Bravo Italiana
01-01-11,Complex I-Avenue, Medan Kampung Relau 1,
11900 Bayan Lepas,
Penang.
Tel/Fax: 04-6410499
A best friend and I visit Bravo Italiana near I-avenue, Bukit Jambul, Penang. We reached there around 12.30pm. Surprisingly there were only two guest, whose are my friend and I *chuckle*. Well, some restaurant in Bayan Lepas area is packed only during weekday, when the factory is operating.
[Click on picture for a clearer one]
A quick glance of the restaurant.
We ordered set lunch, at RM 16.90 or RM 24. The food, in clockwise direction from top left:
1. Garlic bread + soup. The soup is quite nice, with quite a number of mushroom and olive inside. The bread is crunchy and smell nice too. Dipping the bread into the soup is what I usually do :D
2. Fish and chip.
3. Mint ice cream and coffee. As usual :)
4. Spaghetti in olive oil and herbs. I think this is good, if the chef can give few more brocolli will be even better :D The portion is quite huge, just suit people who would like to gain weight like me :D
The menu is typical Italian food menu we can found in Penang I feel. If there is raviolli, risotto, or tivolli will be even better :D
As what I would normall do when dine in Italian restaurant, a tiramisu before or after the meal :D
I personally feel this is quite good. I am not sure what is actual Kahlua taste, the waiter said they are using Kahlua. I feel there is hardly alcohol taste, although there is some bitter taste. I will try this again if I revisit this restaurant :D
Set lunch at RM 16.90/24, tiramisu RM 12.80.
Ristorante Bravo Italiana
01-01-11,Complex I-Avenue, Medan Kampung Relau 1,
11900 Bayan Lepas,
Penang.
Tel/Fax: 04-6410499
Thursday, October 22, 2009
A story
This is a forwarded email available in both English and Chinese version, hope it can keep your heart warm for the rest of the day and keep a balance life :D
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4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have fail to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my kid, and failed to be the dad and mum for my kid.
There was one particular day, when i had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'.... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheets and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasnt anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But i remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence i turn on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till u return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I din want my son to see his dad crying...so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries....
After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy....
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regrets. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...xmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble.. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called.. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.
My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn't help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well.. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven't you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.
Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.
Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first.
With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.
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4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have fail to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my kid, and failed to be the dad and mum for my kid.
There was one particular day, when i had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'.... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheets and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasnt anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But i remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence i turn on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till u return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I din want my son to see his dad crying...so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries....
After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy....
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regrets. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...xmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble.. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called.. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.
My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn't help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well.. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven't you appear?
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.
Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.
Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first.
With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.
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我的妻子因為意外事故離開我身邊已經四年了，我想，妻子留下不會做任何家事的我和孩子，她的心有何等難過呢？我也因為無法兼顧父母雙親的角色而感到挫折。有一天我為了出差，清晨趕出門，無法將孩子打點好就得離開家，正巧前一天有剩下的飯，我熱了蒸蛋，向還沒有睡醒的孩子交代一聲，就出門去了。
為了照顧好孩子飲食三餐的事，我也無力把自己的工作做好。有一天晚上回到家，我只是很簡短地和孩子打個招呼，就因為身體疲累，不想吃晚餐，脫掉西裝之後就直接往床上躺下。就在那個時候，砰的一聲，紅色的湯汁跟泡麵瞬時弄髒了床單和被單，原來有碗泡麵在棉被裡！這小子真是的，說時遲那時快，我即時拿起一個衣架，跑出去，往正玩著玩具的兒子的屁股就打，因為我實在是太生氣了，所以不停地打他。但就在這個時候，他邊啜泣邊說了一段話，使我停了下來。
兒子告訴我說：「飯鍋裡的飯早上已經吃完了，晚餐在幼稚園吃了，但是到了晚上，爸爸還不回來，我就在櫥櫃的抽屜裡找到了泡麵。可是我想到爸爸說不能亂動瓦斯爐，所以我就打開洗澡的水龍頭，用熱水泡了泡麵，一個自己吃，另一個想留給爸爸吃。因為怕泡麵涼掉，所以我就把它放在棉被裡，等你回來。可是因為我正在玩向朋友借來的玩具，所以忘了跟爸爸講。」
我不想讓兒子看到我在流淚，所以衝到洗手間，將水龍頭打開，大聲地哭。過了一陣子之後，我打起精神來，一面哄著兒子，一面也在他屁股上擦藥，讓他上床睡覺。當我清理好泡麵弄髒的床單和棉被後，打開兒子的房門一看，發現他仍舊發出哭泣聲，手裡還拿著媽媽的照片。我把頭靠在房門站了許久，看著這一幕。
自從在一年前發生這件事之後，我為了扮演好媽媽的角色，更加用心地去照顧他。現在兒子快七歲了，不久後就要從幼稚園畢業，進入國小讀書。慶幸的是，兒子在這段時間毫無陰影，很開朗地成長。
就在不久前，我再一次打孩子，因為幼稚園來電話說，兒子沒有去學校，我心裡覺得很不安，所以早退回家，在整個社區裡大聲地喊他的名字，卻是遍尋不著。後來在文具店的門?f，看見他站在電玩的前面，於是我很生氣，又開始一直打他。兒子並沒有說出任何的解釋，只說了聲對不起。後來我才知道，原來剛好是幼稚園要邀請媽媽去
看才藝表演的日子。
發生這些事的幾天後，兒子回家說，他在幼稚園裡學了寫字，從此他經常關在自己的房間裡不出來，很認真地寫字。我看到兒子這個樣子，想到妻子在天國也一定會因為看到他這樣而微笑，我就無法忍住淚水。
時間很快，又過了一年，到了冬天，街頭上都在播放著聖誕節的歌曲，我的兒子卻又闖了一個禍。我正要下班的時候，接到一通社區郵局的電話，說我兒子把一綑沒有寫地址的信，惡作劇地放在郵筒裡。每年到了年底，正是郵局最忙碌的時候，所以這對他們造成很大的困擾。雖然我已決定不再打孩子，但在急忙趕回家後，叫了兒子來，我又忍不住痛打他一頓。兒子這一次只是說他做錯了，卻沒有講出任何理由。我把他推到一個角落，不管了，自個兒跑到郵局領回那一綑惡作劇的信。我把信丟到他眼前說：「你為什麼要這樣惡作劇？」兒子哭著回答說：「這些信是我要寄給媽媽的。」
當時我的眼眶紅了起來，心裡很激動，但是因為在兒子面前，所以我盡量隱忍住沒有表現出來。我接著問他：「那麼，為什麼一次寄這麼多信呢？」兒子回答說：「以前我要把信投進去的時候，因為個兒太矮，所以沒辦法投入，但是最近我再去郵筒時，已經搆得到了，所以我就把以前沒有寄的，一次全部都投進入了。」
我聽了以後，心中一片茫然，不知道該對孩子說什麼話。過了不久以後，我就跟他說：「媽媽現在在天上，以後你寫完信，把信燒了，就能送到天國去。」等孩子睡著之後，我到外面燒了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟媽媽說些什麼，所以讀了其中的幾封信。
而當中有一封信攪動了我的心。
親愛的媽媽：
我很想念你！媽媽，今天在幼稚園有才藝表演，但是因為我沒有媽媽，所以沒有去參加，我也沒有告訴爸爸，怕爸爸會想念媽媽。爸爸到處去找我，但我為了讓爸爸看到我很開心的樣子，所以故意坐在電動玩具面前，雖然爸爸罵我，但是我到最後也沒有告訴他原因。媽媽，我每天都看到爸爸因為想念媽媽而哭泣，我想爸爸也跟我一樣，很想念媽媽吧！但是，媽，我現在已經記不清楚你的臉。媽媽，請你讓我在夢中，再一次能夠看到你的臉，好嗎？聽說把想念的人的照片放在懷裡睡覺，就會夢到那個人。可是，媽媽，為什麼你沒有出現在我的夢裡呢？」
讀完這封信以後，我就開始嚎啕大哭。到底什麼時候，我才能填補妻子的空位呢？
給 已經結婚的女同事：
不要加太多班，工作做不完，一定是公司的某些地方出問題了，一定要將問題反應給妳的老闆，一直加班也不見的有用的，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝。
給 已經結婚的男同事：
不要喝太多酒，不要抽太多煙，請問我們的生意，我們的客戶，有比我們的身體重要嗎？
一定要想一想，有沒有辦法做到客人非我們不行，我們的差異化在哪裡，我們是否真的懂客人的心，這比拼命喝酒，還重要，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝和你的愛人。
給 還沒有結婚的男同事和女同事：
美其實是從愛自己的身體開始 --（蔣勳，身體美學）。
無入而不自得 -- （孔子）。
妳/你們一定要很自在，工作才能做的好，如果工作讓你/妳們的心情做的很辛苦，代表的是我們的公司不夠聰明，那也是公司什麼地方不對了，要勇敢的說出來，不要讓不聰明的工作與老闆，傷害了妳/你們的身體。
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
More exercise, Thai advertisement 趣味泰国广告
I like to watch Thailand's advertisement, innovative, funny but meaningful :D
I read from somewhere "Healthy inside, beauty outside". A human body health status is reflected at its outer shell e.g. skin, hair, nails, eye and etc. If the body is healthy, the skin will be smooth and shining, the face color is natural and healthy. This belief driving me to sleep early everyday, try to drink fruit/vegetable juice daily, be happy and do regular exercise :)
My dear friends and readers, wishing you good health too :)
No health, no wealth, nothing ;)
I read from somewhere "Healthy inside, beauty outside". A human body health status is reflected at its outer shell e.g. skin, hair, nails, eye and etc. If the body is healthy, the skin will be smooth and shining, the face color is natural and healthy. This belief driving me to sleep early everyday, try to drink fruit/vegetable juice daily, be happy and do regular exercise :)
My dear friends and readers, wishing you good health too :)
No health, no wealth, nothing ;)
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
On leave notice
My dear readers, recently my life has been busy with work, and continue will be to catch the deadline. I hope you enjoy my blog post thus far (I know you definitely was haha :p ) . I will try to post at least every two day :)
Upcoming next, besides some spontaneous post, I still have few sharing on Beijing food to write. Then it will be ... it's a secret for now, shhhh.....Stay tuned :D
Upcoming next, besides some spontaneous post, I still have few sharing on Beijing food to write. Then it will be ... it's a secret for now, shhhh.....Stay tuned :D
Monday, October 19, 2009
Carnegie's Advices of Happiness For Ladies 卡内基 写给女人一生幸福的忠告
I remembered I read somewhere, there is still no suitable English word for 幸福 (Mandarin pronounced as Xing4 Fu2), the word Happiness is the closest. Anyway, this book ( available in mandarin version only, guess probably is extracted from few Carnegie's book and translated.) uses story written by Carnegie to describe the concepts. Not all advice applicable to all ladies, as some maybe more related to US culture, business man family and etc, but most are interesting to think about.
The book content, if you understand mandarin.
第一章 女人处世的十二大基本技巧
1.戒除批评、责怪和抱怨
2.真诚地赞赏、喜欢他人
3.不要争论不休
4.发自真心地请别人帮忙
5.建议永远比命令更有“威力”
6.别忘了，保全别人的面子很重要
7.承认错误一点都不丢人
8.宽容别人是对自己的解救
9.不强加于人
10.千万不能心存报复
11.守住隐私好为人
12.闲来切忌无事生非
第二章 平安快乐的要诀
13.选好自己的伴侣
14.健康女人，平安快乐
15.让真爱与你同行
16.保持自我
17.与人为善会使自己快乐
18.做自己喜欢的事
19.拥有点闲暇时间
20.让最得意的事常在脑海中萦绕
21.说出你的心事
22.不要苛求别人的感恩
23.生活不能太单调
24.不要把别人的批评太放在心上
25.学会放松，解除疲劳
26.认识忧虑，抗拒忧虑
27.战胜孤独
28.追求完美的女人不幸福
29.贪婪蛀蚀快乐
30.自尊自爱
第三章 做最有魅力的女人
31.举手投足尽显风雅
32.做一个有格调的女人
33.好性格使你幸运
34.做自己情绪的主人
35.保持快乐与活力
36.恰当的衣着和化妆
37.会说话，会办事
38.“糊涂”女人最可爱
39.给别人说自己得意事情的机主
40.微笑是给人良好印象的最好岁
41.善解人意，体贴他人
42.做一个“柔道”高手
第四章 让中意的男人喜欢你（婚前）
43.做有情调的女人
44.为悦己者容
45.羞涩的诱惑力
46.眼神效应
47.用柔情结网
48.保持独特魅力，让男人着迷
49.挑战成功男人的爱情
50.多谈论他感兴趣的话题
51.认可他，崇拜他
52.让他获得从未有过的关爱
53.女人，慢解你的罗裙
54.机敏地抓住幸福
第五章 不伤感情地改变他（婚后）
55.最笨的女人才强迫对方
56.先赞扬，再批评，但赞扬要不留痕迹
57.切忌直截了当地指出他的错误
58.鼓励更容易使人改正错误
59.以提问的方式来代替命令
60.戏剧性地表达自己的意图
61.给他一顶高帽子，并让他努力达标
62.激发他的高尚动机
第六章 做他事业上的好帮手
63.授权给他，使他乐于做你所建议的事
64.鼓励他从事合适的职业
65.帮丈夫确定目标
66.称赞他的进步，激励他获得成功
67.做他的忠诚信徒
68.让丈夫静心工作
69.帮助他受到欢迎
70.熟悉他的工作，并适时帮助他
71.他要是调职，就和他一起去
72.鼓励他不断学习
73.他要经常加班加点
74.嫁了个在家工作的人
75.丈夫的工作出现了突然变化
76.与他的女秘书快乐相处
77.善于倾听很重要
78.让他感到自己很重要
79.你的野心会害了他
80.放弃控制他的想法
81.给予他同情与谅解
第七章 让你的家庭生活幸福快乐
82.当你们的职业发生冲突时
83.珍惜丈夫的身体
84.让他有自己的爱好
85.女人的爱好，男人的“运气”
86.高效率处理好家务
87.喋喋不休是幸福婚姻的禁忌
88.别做婚姻的文盲
89.在生活的小细节中体贴他
90.做一个招人喜爱的女主人
91.创造浪漫温馨的家庭氛围
92.学会家庭理财这一课
93.注重生活中的小事
94.教育子女责无旁贷
95.多了解性，别让自己冷下去
96.向他表达你的爱和幸福感
97.魅力妻子的十堂必修课
98.做应对情感风波的高手
99.简单处理婚姻中的复杂难题
100.拥有自信，消除恐惧
101.能听意见，也有主见
102.学会喜欢自己
103.活在今天
104.适应不可避免的事实
105.不为打翻的牛奶哭泣
106.该放手时就放手
107.平静、理智、克制
108.练就坚韧的意志品质
109.学会与婚姻外的男性相处
110.不再为失眠忧虑
第九章 做可人的职业场女人
111.工作着的女人有魅力
112.心中要有目标
113.高情商女人容易赢得成功
114.女人的职场第一原理
115.认真做好每一件事
116.养成好的工作习惯
117.让你的上司赏识你
118.自如应付同性的嫉妒
119.说话做事要有度
120.做一个沟通高手
121.打造成功的人际关系网
The book content, if you understand mandarin.
第一章 女人处世的十二大基本技巧
1.戒除批评、责怪和抱怨
2.真诚地赞赏、喜欢他人
3.不要争论不休
4.发自真心地请别人帮忙
5.建议永远比命令更有“威力”
6.别忘了，保全别人的面子很重要
7.承认错误一点都不丢人
8.宽容别人是对自己的解救
9.不强加于人
10.千万不能心存报复
11.守住隐私好为人
12.闲来切忌无事生非
第二章 平安快乐的要诀
13.选好自己的伴侣
14.健康女人，平安快乐
15.让真爱与你同行
16.保持自我
17.与人为善会使自己快乐
18.做自己喜欢的事
19.拥有点闲暇时间
20.让最得意的事常在脑海中萦绕
21.说出你的心事
22.不要苛求别人的感恩
23.生活不能太单调
24.不要把别人的批评太放在心上
25.学会放松，解除疲劳
26.认识忧虑，抗拒忧虑
27.战胜孤独
28.追求完美的女人不幸福
29.贪婪蛀蚀快乐
30.自尊自爱
第三章 做最有魅力的女人
31.举手投足尽显风雅
32.做一个有格调的女人
33.好性格使你幸运
34.做自己情绪的主人
35.保持快乐与活力
36.恰当的衣着和化妆
37.会说话，会办事
38.“糊涂”女人最可爱
39.给别人说自己得意事情的机主
40.微笑是给人良好印象的最好岁
41.善解人意，体贴他人
42.做一个“柔道”高手
第四章 让中意的男人喜欢你（婚前）
43.做有情调的女人
44.为悦己者容
45.羞涩的诱惑力
46.眼神效应
47.用柔情结网
48.保持独特魅力，让男人着迷
49.挑战成功男人的爱情
50.多谈论他感兴趣的话题
51.认可他，崇拜他
52.让他获得从未有过的关爱
53.女人，慢解你的罗裙
54.机敏地抓住幸福
第五章 不伤感情地改变他（婚后）
55.最笨的女人才强迫对方
56.先赞扬，再批评，但赞扬要不留痕迹
57.切忌直截了当地指出他的错误
58.鼓励更容易使人改正错误
59.以提问的方式来代替命令
60.戏剧性地表达自己的意图
61.给他一顶高帽子，并让他努力达标
62.激发他的高尚动机
第六章 做他事业上的好帮手
63.授权给他，使他乐于做你所建议的事
64.鼓励他从事合适的职业
65.帮丈夫确定目标
66.称赞他的进步，激励他获得成功
67.做他的忠诚信徒
68.让丈夫静心工作
69.帮助他受到欢迎
70.熟悉他的工作，并适时帮助他
71.他要是调职，就和他一起去
72.鼓励他不断学习
73.他要经常加班加点
74.嫁了个在家工作的人
75.丈夫的工作出现了突然变化
76.与他的女秘书快乐相处
77.善于倾听很重要
78.让他感到自己很重要
79.你的野心会害了他
80.放弃控制他的想法
81.给予他同情与谅解
第七章 让你的家庭生活幸福快乐
82.当你们的职业发生冲突时
83.珍惜丈夫的身体
84.让他有自己的爱好
85.女人的爱好，男人的“运气”
86.高效率处理好家务
87.喋喋不休是幸福婚姻的禁忌
88.别做婚姻的文盲
89.在生活的小细节中体贴他
90.做一个招人喜爱的女主人
91.创造浪漫温馨的家庭氛围
92.学会家庭理财这一课
93.注重生活中的小事
94.教育子女责无旁贷
95.多了解性，别让自己冷下去
96.向他表达你的爱和幸福感
97.魅力妻子的十堂必修课
98.做应对情感风波的高手
99.简单处理婚姻中的复杂难题
100.拥有自信，消除恐惧
101.能听意见，也有主见
102.学会喜欢自己
103.活在今天
104.适应不可避免的事实
105.不为打翻的牛奶哭泣
106.该放手时就放手
107.平静、理智、克制
108.练就坚韧的意志品质
109.学会与婚姻外的男性相处
110.不再为失眠忧虑
第九章 做可人的职业场女人
111.工作着的女人有魅力
112.心中要有目标
113.高情商女人容易赢得成功
114.女人的职场第一原理
115.认真做好每一件事
116.养成好的工作习惯
117.让你的上司赏识你
118.自如应付同性的嫉妒
119.说话做事要有度
120.做一个沟通高手
121.打造成功的人际关系网
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Penang Lorong Selamat Bak Hu Hokkien Rap :)
Enjoy :)
[Version 1 audio is clearer but no video, you can see Bak Hu aunty in Version 2 but audio quality is lesser]
Version 1:
Version 2 episode 1:
Version 2 episode 2:
[Version 1 audio is clearer but no video, you can see Bak Hu aunty in Version 2 but audio quality is lesser]
Version 1:
Version 2 episode 1:
Version 2 episode 2:
Friday, October 16, 2009
2009-08-26 (2) Some map of Bali and Yogyakarta
Dear readers, this is the last post of my Bali + Yogyakarta trip. In this post, just some map for your reference from the brochure :) Of course the copyright belong to the brochure publisher. (Dealing too much with intellectual property in work recently, will not forget to mention copyright stuff in recent :p )
Well, if you read my previous blog post, conventionally, click on each picture for clearer version :)
Some map of Bali:
Some map of Yogyakarta:
Yogyakarta street map from Tourist Information Center.
That's it all. The end of Bali + Yogyakarta blog post :)
Well, if you read my previous blog post, conventionally, click on each picture for clearer version :)
Some map of Bali:
Some map of Yogyakarta:
Yogyakarta street map from Tourist Information Center.
That's it all. The end of Bali + Yogyakarta blog post :)
Thursday, October 15, 2009
2009-08-26 (1) Goodbye Yogyakarta
Everything has an end, then only it can be started again. So, today is last day of my Bali + Yogyakarta trip. After our lunch, we departed to airport. It normally cost around IDR 30K- 50K, depending on traffic situation. The traffic was smooth and it is around 20 min drive, which cost around IDR 35K to reach airport.
A quick glance of the airport.
[Blur picture? Click on it for clearer one]
It mostly serve local airline, except Air Asia and Malaysia Airline. After checked-in, we have to wait for around 15 min for the airport tax counter to open. After paid airport tax, which is IDR 100K (~RM 36) per person. Please be reminded to check the airport tax before your trip, the rate has been increasing from time to time. Payment is in cash term only for the moment. After we paid the airport tax, well, hmm, the custom was not opened, we have to wait for another 10 min.
Right after the custom gate is the departure hall, just a room around 900 square feet with only chairs, few TV and toilet. Oh yes, if you think you need food while waiting for the plane, please bring your own food and drink :) Luckily we took lunch and have some biscuit with us, or else we will probably starve to death :p
When I walking to Air Asia plane (Oh yes, you have to walk to the plane regardless which airline you are taking), I saw a very long queue outside of the arrival custom clearance. Look at picture below :)
I remembered I read from some travel forum that the arrival custom officer efficiency far way need to be improved, now I see it with my eyes :) I was taking domestic flight from Bali to Yogyakarta and don't have to go through this :)
Some view of Yogyakarta:
That's the end of my relax holiday vacation. Hope you will have one too ;)
Goodbye Yogyakarta.
PS: Since this is the end of the trip, why is the title marked 2009-08-26 (1)? Stay tuned, this is not the last post yet :D
A quick glance of the airport.
[Blur picture? Click on it for clearer one]
It mostly serve local airline, except Air Asia and Malaysia Airline. After checked-in, we have to wait for around 15 min for the airport tax counter to open. After paid airport tax, which is IDR 100K (~RM 36) per person. Please be reminded to check the airport tax before your trip, the rate has been increasing from time to time. Payment is in cash term only for the moment. After we paid the airport tax, well, hmm, the custom was not opened, we have to wait for another 10 min.
Right after the custom gate is the departure hall, just a room around 900 square feet with only chairs, few TV and toilet. Oh yes, if you think you need food while waiting for the plane, please bring your own food and drink :) Luckily we took lunch and have some biscuit with us, or else we will probably starve to death :p
When I walking to Air Asia plane (Oh yes, you have to walk to the plane regardless which airline you are taking), I saw a very long queue outside of the arrival custom clearance. Look at picture below :)
I remembered I read from some travel forum that the arrival custom officer efficiency far way need to be improved, now I see it with my eyes :) I was taking domestic flight from Bali to Yogyakarta and don't have to go through this :)
Some view of Yogyakarta:
That's the end of my relax holiday vacation. Hope you will have one too ;)
Goodbye Yogyakarta.
PS: Since this is the end of the trip, why is the title marked 2009-08-26 (1)? Stay tuned, this is not the last post yet :D
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Everyday is a unique day :)
Everyday has special meaning to different people :) Since I realize the meaning of 母难日 from a Buddhism camp, I seldom have the idea of having birthday party or huge celebration. On the contrary, I felt real wishes from family and friends will keep my heart warmer :)
This year, there are wishes from the IM, sms, email and people greeting, from east to west, from south to north, around the globe. This is the power of globalization eh ;)
There were few surprises. Some old friend still remembering this day. Oh yes, real friend will remember (sometimes there will be delay also, people in this century is busy, sometimes I do forget friend's birthday too :0 ) Most friend know I am not into big/expensive birthday gift except warm greetings or a birthday song, but there are few small gift of surprised which really light up my day, lavender cake (although I still felt lavender taste like body lotion :p ), lunch, dinner, beach walk with starry night (my first starry night in Penang :D ), and this karaoke card, which arrive today, right on the dot :)
Oh if you are my reading, you will be saying, since when I became John haha :p SSSP and HY I know you will say that :p
Thank you all my friends :) Rememberring this day and a sincere wishes is always the best gift for me :)
This year, there are wishes from the IM, sms, email and people greeting, from east to west, from south to north, around the globe. This is the power of globalization eh ;)
There were few surprises. Some old friend still remembering this day. Oh yes, real friend will remember (sometimes there will be delay also, people in this century is busy, sometimes I do forget friend's birthday too :0 ) Most friend know I am not into big/expensive birthday gift except warm greetings or a birthday song, but there are few small gift of surprised which really light up my day, lavender cake (although I still felt lavender taste like body lotion :p ), lunch, dinner, beach walk with starry night (my first starry night in Penang :D ), and this karaoke card, which arrive today, right on the dot :)
Oh if you are my reading, you will be saying, since when I became John haha :p SSSP and HY I know you will say that :p
Thank you all my friends :) Rememberring this day and a sincere wishes is always the best gift for me :)
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
2009-08-25 (8) Food in Yogyakarta
It's time for some food I taken in Yogyakarta :D The food posted here is not in correct date sequence. Please read all in clockwise direction, starting from top left.
1) McDonald chicken and rice, with its typical cup :) The taste is okay, similar to that in Malaysia.
2) KFC meal set, organic rice with fried chicken. The chicken is similar to crispy fried chicken in Malaysia but not spicy. The organic rice is very delicious. Have not hear someone ever said rice is delicious before? ;) It is fragrant and the texture is good. It reminded me of the nice rice during my Cambodia trip :)
We tried one of the local chain restaurant inside Malioboro Mall as its name shown in poster above. The food are:
1) Nasi .... eei, I can't recalled the name and the receipt is not with me now, no way to check :p I can't remember the taste, it should be normal then ;)
2) Soto ayam rice set. Nice to try once.
3) Fried Kuei Teow. Surprised to see here also got kuei teow. It tasted okay, but I think the one I have in Malaysia is better :)
The food we took at Malioboro Mall food court. I missed out the fried sambal kangkung, that is really good taste.
1) Nice fruit juice. The left most is avocado juice with some chocolate syrup, followed by guava juice, mango juice then, eei sorry I can't remember the name again, I just realize I have not jot down the name, too hungry maybe :) I have not seen that fruit in Malaysia before, bigger size than grapefruit, and the taste is nice, not sour. Highly recommended by the seller. IDR 10K (~RM 3.60) per cup. *drooling*
2) Bakso and other stuffed-meat dish, a bit similar to Yong To Fu of Malaysia.
3) Nasi gado-gado. Frankly I am not in favour of this :p I see most of the l
1) We took a break at Mirota Batik. Another place for souvenir, batik and house deco item. Some merchandise price is acceptable.
2) The coconut juice with added syrup. We did not know they will add red syrup, so when you order coconut in Indonesia, if you remembered to remind them not to add red syrup for you.
1) Some local 'kuih' we bought from road side stall. Similar taste with that of Malaysia, except we will not be given cilipadi in Malaysia *chuckle* So you think you can eat really spicy food? ;)
We dined in Pizza Hut of Malioboro Mall before departed to Yogyakarta airport on the last day.
1) Oh yes, avocado juice again :) If you read notice the story behind it, it is about donating to a kid a day meal through Pizza Hut, if you would like to donate, just mentioned when paying bill and it will be included. The avocado juice is IDR 14K per cup, slightly higher cost than food court, but bigger cup also :)
2) Quadza pizza consist of 4 flavors - meat lovers, classic favorite, supreme and beeforn. The crust is nice, although it is typical Pizza Hut thick crust but it is crispy, much better than that of Malaysia :D IDR 61818 (~RM 22) for large pan pizza crust.
3) We can't finish the pizza, thus have few pieces for take away, the box looks nice :)
4) puff pastry mushroom cream soup, taste okay. IDR 15455 (~RM 5.50).
1) McDonald chicken and rice, with its typical cup :) The taste is okay, similar to that in Malaysia.
2) KFC meal set, organic rice with fried chicken. The chicken is similar to crispy fried chicken in Malaysia but not spicy. The organic rice is very delicious. Have not hear someone ever said rice is delicious before? ;) It is fragrant and the texture is good. It reminded me of the nice rice during my Cambodia trip :)
We tried one of the local chain restaurant inside Malioboro Mall as its name shown in poster above. The food are:
1) Nasi .... eei, I can't recalled the name and the receipt is not with me now, no way to check :p I can't remember the taste, it should be normal then ;)
2) Soto ayam rice set. Nice to try once.
3) Fried Kuei Teow. Surprised to see here also got kuei teow. It tasted okay, but I think the one I have in Malaysia is better :)
The food we took at Malioboro Mall food court. I missed out the fried sambal kangkung, that is really good taste.
1) Nice fruit juice. The left most is avocado juice with some chocolate syrup, followed by guava juice, mango juice then, eei sorry I can't remember the name again, I just realize I have not jot down the name, too hungry maybe :) I have not seen that fruit in Malaysia before, bigger size than grapefruit, and the taste is nice, not sour. Highly recommended by the seller. IDR 10K (~RM 3.60) per cup. *drooling*
2) Bakso and other stuffed-meat dish, a bit similar to Yong To Fu of Malaysia.
3) Nasi gado-gado. Frankly I am not in favour of this :p I see most of the l
1) We took a break at Mirota Batik. Another place for souvenir, batik and house deco item. Some merchandise price is acceptable.
2) The coconut juice with added syrup. We did not know they will add red syrup, so when you order coconut in Indonesia, if you remembered to remind them not to add red syrup for you.
1) Some local 'kuih' we bought from road side stall. Similar taste with that of Malaysia, except we will not be given cilipadi in Malaysia *chuckle* So you think you can eat really spicy food? ;)
We dined in Pizza Hut of Malioboro Mall before departed to Yogyakarta airport on the last day.
1) Oh yes, avocado juice again :) If you read notice the story behind it, it is about donating to a kid a day meal through Pizza Hut, if you would like to donate, just mentioned when paying bill and it will be included. The avocado juice is IDR 14K per cup, slightly higher cost than food court, but bigger cup also :)
2) Quadza pizza consist of 4 flavors - meat lovers, classic favorite, supreme and beeforn. The crust is nice, although it is typical Pizza Hut thick crust but it is crispy, much better than that of Malaysia :D IDR 61818 (~RM 22) for large pan pizza crust.
3) We can't finish the pizza, thus have few pieces for take away, the box looks nice :)
4) puff pastry mushroom cream soup, taste okay. IDR 15455 (~RM 5.50).
Monday, October 12, 2009
2009-08-25 (7) Jalan Malioboro
This will be a long blog post, as Jalan Malioboro is considered a long street in Yogyakarta *chuckle* Don't worry, most of the story are composed by picture ;)
Some of the street view:
[Blur picture? Click on it for a clearer one ;) ]
Oh yes, if you follow my Beijing photo in facebook, here is another photo of Bata shop at oversea :D
'Es campur' is some sort like 'ABC' (Ais batu campur) in Malaysia. It is blended ice with some ingredient like red bean, grass jelly, corn, peanut and etc, with some syrup either brown sugar syrup, pepsi-taste syrup, condensed milk on top.
If you would like to try some street food, it is not expensive :) I have no chance to try it, this is one of the limitation travel with seniors :)
Some local biscuit and snack. I always like to taste local food, but not in this trip, I also can't figure out the reason, just don't feel like want to try :)
Taken this while I crossed the road near post office. It took me around 10-20 minutes to walk from Ibis Hotel to Yogyakarta post office near Jalan Malioboro (junction of A. Yani St and P. Senopati St.). I believe you can find Yogyakarta map online easily. Or else left me your email address, I can email a scan copy to you :) Tourist information center is in between Ibis Hotel and post office. The stuff in tourist information center is very friendly, they will be very happy to provide you a street map and explain the direction to you. By the way, post office is called Kantor Pos. A lot of the locals cannot understand post office :)
If you are tired walking, can consider to take bus. It is around 2 stop from Ibis Hotel to Vredeburg Ford stop. I cannot remember the bus fair, it is reasonable :)
The bus stop.
Pay the bus fair before enter the bus stop. There is always officer helping you out especially tourist. We told the him we would like to go post office, and he will tell us to board the bus when it arrived. There are few bus of different route. Interested to find out if the bus stop looks a bit higher than normal one? Look at picture below:
Step on the red-highlighted board to get into the bus. The bus entrance is a bit high, it is hard to get into the bus from the floor :)
We reach the post office before it closed. This is the biggest branch in Yogyakarta. It is comparable to that in Georgetown Penang :) If you would like to send post card in Yogyakarta, there are two options:
1. Buy stamp at stationary shop, e.g. a shop near Ilmu Sari of Jalan Malioboro, then may passed to hotel receptionist to post for you (If your hotel provide such service, Ibis hotel does).
2. Buy the stamp at post office and post there.
I initially would like to try option 1. When I asked for the stamp price, the shopkeeper told me the price is IDR 7500 (~RM 2.70) for one postcard. I remembered I read online it was around IDR 5K, thus I was hesitate to buy, then decided to go to post office, since it is within walking distance. The post office officer explained to me the price vary depending on the country region. to send to Malaysia and Singapore is IDR 5K (~ RM 1.80), to Japan is IDR 6K (~ RM 2.10 ), UK IDR 7.5K (~RM 2.70) and US IDR 8K (~RM 2.90). I wondered if the stationary shopkeeper know about this, or they just want to save the hassle of explaning? Anyway, it has always been good experience to visit local post office. Look at Tom and Jerry first day cover below, very nice right?
Although I am not big fan in stamp collection, but I think this Tom and Jerry set will be nice to have. Surprisingly this set was sold out quite some time ago, as it looks cute. Frankly, I have not feel racist issue here. You may say I have not stay long enough, but.. hmm, just my personal feeling of the racist crisis always being brought up at my motherland especially during voting season.
Saw some student visiting post office before I left :) The school uniform just looks familiar to that what I have had last time in secondary also :D
If you know 德安堂, there is one here at Yogyakarta too :D
Here is the end of a day tour of Jalan Maliobory. Enjoy your day :)
*Due to some human error in scheduling the auto-posting, this post came out the last. Anyway, this posting date will be change to the correct sequence few days later.
Some of the street view:
[Blur picture? Click on it for a clearer one ;) ]
Oh yes, if you follow my Beijing photo in facebook, here is another photo of Bata shop at oversea :D
'Es campur' is some sort like 'ABC' (Ais batu campur) in Malaysia. It is blended ice with some ingredient like red bean, grass jelly, corn, peanut and etc, with some syrup either brown sugar syrup, pepsi-taste syrup, condensed milk on top.
If you would like to try some street food, it is not expensive :) I have no chance to try it, this is one of the limitation travel with seniors :)
Some local biscuit and snack. I always like to taste local food, but not in this trip, I also can't figure out the reason, just don't feel like want to try :)
Taken this while I crossed the road near post office. It took me around 10-20 minutes to walk from Ibis Hotel to Yogyakarta post office near Jalan Malioboro (junction of A. Yani St and P. Senopati St.). I believe you can find Yogyakarta map online easily. Or else left me your email address, I can email a scan copy to you :) Tourist information center is in between Ibis Hotel and post office. The stuff in tourist information center is very friendly, they will be very happy to provide you a street map and explain the direction to you. By the way, post office is called Kantor Pos. A lot of the locals cannot understand post office :)
If you are tired walking, can consider to take bus. It is around 2 stop from Ibis Hotel to Vredeburg Ford stop. I cannot remember the bus fair, it is reasonable :)
The bus stop.
Pay the bus fair before enter the bus stop. There is always officer helping you out especially tourist. We told the him we would like to go post office, and he will tell us to board the bus when it arrived. There are few bus of different route. Interested to find out if the bus stop looks a bit higher than normal one? Look at picture below:
Step on the red-highlighted board to get into the bus. The bus entrance is a bit high, it is hard to get into the bus from the floor :)
We reach the post office before it closed. This is the biggest branch in Yogyakarta. It is comparable to that in Georgetown Penang :) If you would like to send post card in Yogyakarta, there are two options:
1. Buy stamp at stationary shop, e.g. a shop near Ilmu Sari of Jalan Malioboro, then may passed to hotel receptionist to post for you (If your hotel provide such service, Ibis hotel does).
2. Buy the stamp at post office and post there.
I initially would like to try option 1. When I asked for the stamp price, the shopkeeper told me the price is IDR 7500 (~RM 2.70) for one postcard. I remembered I read online it was around IDR 5K, thus I was hesitate to buy, then decided to go to post office, since it is within walking distance. The post office officer explained to me the price vary depending on the country region. to send to Malaysia and Singapore is IDR 5K (~ RM 1.80), to Japan is IDR 6K (~ RM 2.10 ), UK IDR 7.5K (~RM 2.70) and US IDR 8K (~RM 2.90). I wondered if the stationary shopkeeper know about this, or they just want to save the hassle of explaning? Anyway, it has always been good experience to visit local post office. Look at Tom and Jerry first day cover below, very nice right?
Although I am not big fan in stamp collection, but I think this Tom and Jerry set will be nice to have. Surprisingly this set was sold out quite some time ago, as it looks cute. Frankly, I have not feel racist issue here. You may say I have not stay long enough, but.. hmm, just my personal feeling of the racist crisis always being brought up at my motherland especially during voting season.
Saw some student visiting post office before I left :) The school uniform just looks familiar to that what I have had last time in secondary also :D
If you know 德安堂, there is one here at Yogyakarta too :D
Here is the end of a day tour of Jalan Maliobory. Enjoy your day :)
*Due to some human error in scheduling the auto-posting, this post came out the last. Anyway, this posting date will be change to the correct sequence few days later.
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